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moderate minimalism // how to live more with less

Apr 12

be back soon…


Jul 6

the ‘busy’ trap

Tim Kreider’s column describes busyness best:

If you live in America in the 21st century you’ve probably had to listen to a lot of people tell you how busy they are. It’s become the default response when you ask anyone how they’re doing: “Busy!” “So busy.” “Crazy busy.” It is, pretty obviously, a boast disguised as a complaint. And the stock response is a kind of congratulation: “That’s a good problem to have,” or “Better than the opposite.”

Notice it isn’t generally people pulling back-to-back shifts in the I.C.U. or commuting by bus to three minimum-wage jobs who tell you how busy they are; what those people are is not busy but tired. Exhausted. Dead on their feet. It’s almost always people whose lamented busyness is purely self-imposed: work and obligations they’ve taken on voluntarily, classes and activities they’ve “encouraged” their kids to participate in. They’re busy because of their own ambition or drive or anxiety, because they’re addicted to busyness and dread what they might have to face in its absence.

Thanks for sharing, @kmodes.

- T


Jun 25

an email i didn’t expect to get today

To: Tamara
From: Papa
Date: Monday, June 25, 2012
Subject: In Case

Tamara,

In case you didn’t see Penelope’s blog post today: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2012/06/25/get-pregnant-at-25-if-you-want-a-high-powered-career/

I am NOT suggesting you get pregnant. I am looking at this blog from the feminist viewpoint.

Here is the article by Anne-Marie Slaughter that is referenced in the blog: http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-can-8217-t-have-it-all/9020/ It’s kind of long, but a good read.

Love, Papa

To: Papa
From: Tamara
Date: Monday, June 25, 2012
Subject: RE: In Case

I read the Anne-Marie Slaughter piece in The Atlantic. I thought it was interesting, although I feel like — at least in the beginning — she was too focused on work/life balance as work/children balance. Arguably children are one of the most time-consuming aspects on the “life” side of the work/life equation, but what about a spouse? Friends? Other family members? Yourself? Hobbies you enjoy? Volunteering? Fitness? Those things are not children, and yet they’re just as important, if not more important, to determining happiness and contributing to society.

The main takeaway I had from this article is that it’s not actually about women anymore. I know plenty of men, some of my colleagues included, who are very involved in their kids’ lives. And I think it’s actually a bigger symptom of the fact that we are all expected to be workers above all else. And that we equate being a good worker with being a workaholic.

Maybe I will blog about this.

Love you,
T


Jun 19

a very mad men father’s day

season five finale

Now that I don’t need to worry about spoilers, here’s some more wisdom from Carlos in the form of his analysis of the Mad Men season finale:

I thought the finale was sad. All the partners are alone again. Lane died alone. Joan’s husband is gone, Pete’s girlfriend is gone and his wife is getting him an apartment in NYC. Roger is alone in a hotel room, and Don had to give Megan her wings so he is back in the bars. Even Peggy is alone in a hotel room. The partners are all getting rich, but their lives are hollow. They are looking for an elusive fulfillment. Work, get rich. Then how do you fill the hollowness inside after you have neglected yourself for so long? Maybe next season will address that search for fulfillment.

Hope you had a great birthday and Father’s Day, Papa.

- T




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